Self Love

I have thought about what defines us as individuals recently, I have come to the conclusion that the one thing - even though most of us will deny it - that determines who we are is what others think (or not think) of us. We want to know what people want us to do, how they expect us to behave, what do they think that is odd or different about us and then accordingly we feel the need to justify it or not. The need to justify their opinion is simple, we just simply want constant validation. We want to be approved of. A guarantee that whatever we are and whatever we are doing is to satisfy others and in turn satisfy us by providing us a niche in society.

I want to stop here. I want to now talk about what it is like to be self loving almost bordering being narcissistic. Self love is the kind of love that seeks validation from no one but you. It is like a moral police only better because it loves you no matter what you do or how many times you may screw up. Being narcissistic is not a punishment it is a cure. It makes one smarter, stronger and much more secure in their own skin. Being comfortable in who you are will automatically make you love yourself. All these barriers of stereotypes and groups don't matter at all if you are at peace with yourself. Life is so short that if one wastes it on anybody whom we don't love it is truly a worthless existence. Instead of living in the moment at least we should all try and live for ourselves. I say we should be helpful to those in need but selfish in our needs and fulfill them first. Of course I do not mean that one has to become an evil person who doesn't care about anyone, all I think I am really saying is that we ourselves can teach us so much about us!! who knows you and I better than, well, you and I! think about it, and love yourself! :)